The Fight of a Real Father's Love - Visitor's Story

by Adam Spotts
(Summit Station, PA, USA)

I know a person, His name is Adam. He has been trying to provide and protect his two little girls for over 5 years, but the worst started in March of 2006.

He had been away from home for 2 days and received a call from a child services worker. This worker informed him that his home wasn't up to par when he wasn't home and it would be in his and the children's best interest to leave the home and take the kids with him.

In Pennsylvania where Adam lives, the mother has more rights than anyone else even if the home is unfit. Adam then retained an attorney and filed full custody of his two beautiful little girls.

Let me fill you in on the children's mother. She is a selfish person and since Adam left her, she lived on welfare and child support. Her reason for this is she doesn't have to work, "The government owes me."

When they went to court the first time Adam was granted visits 3 weekends a month. Even though it was court ordered, she wouldn't let him see the children approximately 6 months later Adam filed for contempt of court. She then had no choice but to render the children to Adam or she will be placed in jail. Things were finally calming down even though child services were still involved with the mother because she wouldn't cook, clean or keep up with the children's medical visits.

Christmas of 2007, one of Adam's daughters was seen carrying weed from the mother's boyfriend around outside. On January 21 2008, Adam received full custody of his children and a few weeks later, the mother was jailed for 6 months for unrelated charges.

Adam then has another calming period until May of 2009 when the mother was filling for full custody against him. He was forced to give her visits even though he tried to set up visits with the mother but she wanted the children under unreasonable conditions. Adam was now court ordered to pay for syc evaluations costing $1200 on top of that, he has to supply transportation to and from the visits, food, and clothing for the visits even though she only has them six hours a week.

Now after all of these, he hasn't had any luck with keeping a vehicle on the road. Firstly, his 2003 minivan which was the only vehicle the children would ride lost the transmission. Then his car which was a backup for transporting the children and his means to and from work blew a heater core one week later, caught fire, and 2 hours after that was fixed, he lost the radiator.

He felt that his children needed to see their mother, so he asked the mother to meet him halfway because he only had a ride to the grocery store. The mother in return filed charges against him for violating the court order just once. He has been taking these all with a grain of salt, which is the most honorable thing anyone can do. He has fought to teach his children everything and anything and has given these two beautiful girls the life any child deserves.

I am telling you this story because I am Adam and people need to know that life isn't as bad as it seems, it's just as bad as you perceive it.

So next time you think life is getting rough, take a step back like I did and think of what you have to look forward to. My inspiration for continuing everyday is my little girls. What is yours?